I dare you to end up alone

Jenna Martin
5 min readDec 28, 2022
Photo by Oleksandr Pidvalnyi: https://www.pexels.com/photo/woman-kneeling-on-shoreline-317061/

There’s this pervasive fear in our culture of being alone. There’s even a name for it — monophobia. But even to a smaller degree, this fear drives so many of us to stay in bad relationships. And it’s easy to see why.

Some of us know solitude intimately. I’m looking at you my fellow introverts. We relish the beautiful silence of an empty home after a long day at the office. And yet, that same home may feel like a hollow fortress on a holiday without loved ones. Or we may have spent a birthday alone we were so looking forward to celebrating with friends. But instead of a chorus of voices, and a room filled with group merriment, we found ourselves lighting a candle for one on a vanilla-frosted pile of deliciousness.

There may be even graver circumstances like getting cancer and other serious illnesses where we find ourselves alone. In fact, there have been many studies addressing this particular predicament. And the research points to a grim reality — a woman with cancer or other serious illness is six times more likely to be separated or divorced soon after receiving her diagnosis than a male patient. And as you may imagine this particular topic has sparked global debate and conversation most notably on Twitter. But foregoing the gender issue for a second, the very clear reality is that at one point or another we are faced with our own human condition and the truth which…

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Jenna Martin

Resilience coach. Mindfulness teacher. Dedicated to helping little and big humans thrive through adversity. Author of Milo & The Wisdom of the Sea.